ŶŮŢŨŢŻŪůŦġŪŴŴŶŦġljĸ ĵlj ōŦŢųůŪůŨġŵŰġŇŰŭŭŰŸġŐůŦɅŴġńŢŭŭŪůŨ cases, unless they are UM students. But I once counselled a student leader who sustained brain damage in a car accident while studying abroad. It took me some time to help him come to terms with his new condition. !e last time when he le" the place where I worked, I walked him to the door. He walked a few steps ahead of me before he stopped, turned around, and gave me this one look that I remember to this day. U: What did that look say? J: It is hard to say. Was it gratitude? Satisfaction? A feeling of suddenly understanding something? Or a feeling of being understood? I don’t know. Maybe it was a mixture of all these emotions. It was a deep form of communication between two human beings. It was as if we became inter-being at the moment. !at look was deeply therapeutic to me. I felt that marked the beginning of his change of attitude in spite of his knowing that physically he would never fully recover. For those who seek counselling, only when they unearth the root cause of their feelings and learn to accept themselves under the changed circumstances will they be able to move on with their lives. Ј ڼ ൷ձौᏰԁӇ ٱ ғ܈ӣ౩Ж的ጛಬ ŖȈ ڤ ೀૠᠨϞ甚麼ȉࠛ Ȉ࢝ሲ࣏甚麼，࣏ྏ ᑬཛྷȉᆕ ږ ཛྷȉನႋ ཛྷȉജᖢႋཛྷȉ ا Й ߢ Ⴝ，ൌ಄ԴϘ， ڤ ࣏ ی ৎhuman-being ࢝ಎኸը的ѕᢸ഼，Հᄊ inter-being。ġ ڤ ৎೀૠᅆ ا ϵգ࢝ಎ的ᖚᙽ֯ ӡ。 ڤ Ϙը， ྏا ះҁԴѕನϯ༟ ܕ Ꭰᑋ，ᐐᇒґକ ϯЙྻ ؆ԑࢭ。ᅆ ݺ త ۦ ቃᐱ的Ϡ ڽ ሲ，Ҫգ د ѕຕӇ༟，দྲ తૼྲ 的Ў，ЖҞѽবᅆӏ ڽ 的Ӡࣿ 。 ŖȈᑉԇѕನရᐱ ిݕ ᐯ，Ղ֣ ᕒׄ ᐯ৶Ꭰᑋ Ў的ѕನȉࠛ Ȉ࢝Ժᐯ৶Ўӎ ڗ ൌྻ Ⴣۖ ఐᇰ๏ዋ的யᛟ， ిྻا ҁেྐ ᓱ ޱ ՉჲЎ。ُ ৎϠԴӠ ۻ ЙԢ༥ࣱ ，ဥۖ 的ѕನயᛟൌЙԢ， ا ၃௱ᅆᐯ೫ѕನቃ ᐱ的ᐯӠሲ，ညְ ൵的，බ࣏൵Հ的ᐯ ೫ᑟ。Ү႖，බ࣏ညְ ЎၢϢСႆ ，Ж ߢ Ⴝႆ ব的Ϡ࣏甚麼ѕఐ，Դႆ ব的Ϡቮঋ甚麼ዹ 的ᕒׄ 。 ا ၃௱Ꭰ，ᖚഺ౧Ⴎ࢝ ڙ ॴ，Й࣏ ϠϠҞѽ ֭，ڕ ညְ Ϙӌ ڕ ϯ，ഺබ࣏ ا ে的ч ，ۻ ч ۻ බְ࣏ ঋᐯՀഺ 。 ֘ތڱ ŖȈఋ၃௱Դϯి ᐯӠӒ݇ 的ў ，ޱ ഺў ޱ ᅆց ਰऎ֣ ഺ麼দঋȉࠛ Ȉցਰ൵দঋ࣏ᇒನЎ的ఐᇰ，ఐᇰᇒನѧ ૺᇒನ ـ দঋ。ԴϘৎᐯง的ႆ ， ا ഼௱ྻి Ĺ ljı ᇌѽϯ的ѕನቃᐱў ྻا。ޱ Չవࢢஇ࢝ Ժ的ፚ೫，ᐯӠൌሲഺ ڱ ў ޱ ᅆҁে࢝գӡ，э ێ ࣏Ђұ的ᐯӠ，ᐯྻ ࢢϯԴᐯ੭的ᅁ೫ӡϯ。 Ӓ݇ ࣏ ێ КϘᇌ，Џ၃ਣϘᇌѕನᖚሃӒ݇ి ڈ 的ྲ ᘌཕ，Ꮛӡ ݺ Ў ڗ ϯ，ϵᏋӡ ݺ ᐯӠ。 ŖȈՂ֣ ࢽᐱᐯӠஇӒ݇ ۶Ԣನѕ的ፚ೫ȉࠛ ȈӒ݇ 的ፚ೫ҒࣁϬৎ১ ا，ࡋ েঋգަ ϧ、 দညϭ۶Йঋգԇ֣ 的ໞኊ，ፚ೫的ўՑҒࣁ Ꭰ 、ڗ ᎠਿሃᎠѕ。Ӓ݇ Դ ؼݺ ᢏ ا েգ的ࢥ ᇯጀՑ，ቮঋႵࠜ ༡的ፚ೫。Ԣನѕ൵ӎ的 ፚ೫，බ࣏ᝯ ݺ ཉᡘ的ፚ೫。 ڼ Ղ ྻا ঋِ ᐯӠ Դ੭ཀྵᔌ ر Ϙৎ֜ ၉，ൕϯೀဗᔖ ױ ϩԺжៗ， ๒ࢢϭᡘۖ 的ᗏর， ا ᇍНऎȶчᡖȷ的ፚ೫。 U: In your role as a psychological mentor or professor, how do you help your students to deal with their own psychological problems? J: Many students will encounter anxiety themselves, so I will teach them ways to calm their emotions. Di$erent people will encounter di$erent psychological problems during di$erent stages of their lives. I o"en tell my students: ‘Your most vulnerable moment presents the best learning opportunity for you as a counsellor.’ In other words, only when you have been in the deep dark hole of emotional turmoil can you truly understand how people who are in that place feel and what kind of help they need. I o"en stress that psychological counselling is not an easy career path, and it is certainly not for everyone. But once you choose it, it becomes your calling, and then it’s your duty to learn these things well. őųŢŤŵŪŤŪůŨġŎŪůťŧŶŭůŦŴŴġŢůťġņŮűŢŵũź U: You o"en talk about mindfulness in your class. Why is it so important to teachers? eachers is to manage their own moods. Mood ݈ ޥ တ ńŐŎŎŖŏŊŕŚġŔņœŗŊńņ
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